Friday, May 3, 2013

Selfish

 
Every negative thing someone does and every sin a person commits comes down to being selfish.

  • If you have an affair on your spouse, you're being selfish.
  • If you are fat because you eat too much food, you're selfish.
  • If you don't spend enough time with your children, you're selfish.
  • If you yell at your kids, you're selfish.
  • If you're late to work or meetings, you're selfish.
  • if you're a drug addict, you're selfish.

I don't care what it is, after you dissect it, it will be because of some selfish reason. I'm all for putting yourself first and taking care of yourself and all of that. It's the extreme of this spectrum that I'm frustrated about. It seems more and more lately there is more selfishness going on and not enough selflessness.

A huge example is the recent bombing at the Boston Marathon. Some little examples of selfishness are when I find friends or myself complaining about dumb little things.  Most of the time, our complaints are because we are being selfish.

If you think I'm wrong, test me on it. Tell me something negative or sinful and I'll show you the selfish motive behind it.

One of my close girlfriends is going through a divorce. Her spouse recently had an affair and told her that it wasn't her place to tell other people about the affair. Literally, he said, "we are not together anymore, so it isn't an affair!" Hello (you stupid idiot!), YOU ARE STILL MARRIED, not that that means anything to you anymore.

Here are some quotes I recently found on selfishness:

"Love is what is left in a relationship when the selfishness is taken out." - Nick Richardson

"Surround yourself only with people who are going to LIFT YOU HIGHER." - Oprah Winfrey

"When faith replaces doubt, when selfless service eliminates selfish striving, the power of God brings to pass His purposes." - President Thomas S. Monson -
 
To end this post on a slightly lighter note:

1 Comment:

Jessica Esplin said...

Another word for being selfish is being prideful. Pride is thinking that the way you do things is better than the way others do things. Pride is following your own will instead of God's will. When I think of pride I think of the natural man as an enemy to God, as in Mosiah 3:19. It is only through God we can overcome selfishness and pride.