Sunday, December 29, 2013

Planning and Setting Goals with Faith and Purpose

I had the opportunity to give the following talk today during Sacrament Meeting.  Just wanted to share it with all of you!!

Good afternoon, Brothers and Sisters. When people learn that I am the mother of 7 sons, I am constantly asked the following question “How do you get ANYTHING done during the day?”. And then once they get to know me and understand the many things that I try to accomplish on a daily basis, they then ask me “How do you get SO MUCH done in a day?”. Well, I am finally going to tell you my secret. I have found that the secret to getting the things done that we want out of life is not some magic energy drink. Instead the secret is in the wise counsel that we have received over the years from our Apostles and Prophets. It is to LIVE our lives with faith and purpose, and before we try to live our lives in this way, we need to PLAN our lives with faith and purpose. This is the focus of my talk today. How can we plan our lives with purpose in a way that allows us to act, rather than be acted upon? In other words, how can we not simply accept the life we are given, but instead, obtain a life that we have planned for with faith and purpose?

President Thomas S. Monson said the following during a 2005 BYU devotional address:
    “Eternal life in the kingdom of our Father is [our] goal. Such a goal is not achieved in one glorious attempt but rather is the result of a lifetime of righteousness, an accumulation of wise choices, even a constancy of purpose.” [“Decisions Determine Destiny,” BYU devotional address, 6 November 2005]

So from President Monson's counsel we see that we must strive with a purpose, and work towards our goals with a “constancy of purpose”. That doesn't mean that we have to stick with one specific direction and not deter from it. That is not the constancy that he is speaking of. Instead, he is talking about the consistent grounding of our goals and “wise choices” within a purpose; whatever that purpose is.

One way that I have found substantial success in my personal goal setting is to follow the advice provided by Elder M. Russell Ballard in a conference talk that he gave in April, 1987. He said:
    “First, think about your life and set your priorities. Find some quiet time regularly to think deeply about where you are going and what you will need to do to get there. Jesus, our exemplar, often ‘withdrew himself into the wilderness, and prayed’ (Luke 5:16). We need to do the same thing occasionally to rejuvenate ourselves spiritually as the Savior did. Write down the tasks you would like to accomplish each day. Keep foremost in mind the sacred covenants you have made with the Lord as you write down your daily schedules.    “Second, set short-term goals that you can reach. Set goals that are well balanced—not too many nor too few, and not too high nor too low. Write down your attainable goals and work on them according to their importance. Pray for divine guidance in your goal setting” [Conference Report, April 1987]

When January comes around each year, I think the mistake that we all too often make is in making goals that are going to last the ENTIRE year. What a monstrosity of a goal! We have just given ourselves 365 opportunities to fail at this monstrous goal. Instead, we can break these goals down into MONTHLY, WEEKLY and even DAILY goals. And the great thing about these shorter goals, is that they can change. We don’t have to be stuck on the same goal week after week, or month after month. If a goal was too hard, make it easier. If a goal is too easy, make it harder.

I especially like a comment made by Elder Marvin J. Ashton in a General Conference talk that he gave in October, 1983:
     “The direction in which we are moving is more important than where we are at the moment. Goal setting should cause us to stretch as we make our way” [Conference Report, Oct. 1983]

Some examples of MONTHLY goals that I have set:

  • I read the entire Book of Mormon over a 30 day period
    • I posted the reading schedule on my computer as the background image
    • I put the audiobook version on my phone and kept the scriptures out on my nightstand
  • I participated in a Green Smoothie challenge with some family and friends
    • We posted our various recipes online to share with each other
    • Instagram had recipes posted from others who were doing the same thing

Some examples of WEEKLY goals that I have set:
  • I didn't drink any soda for a week
    • I carried a water bottle everywhere that I went and even flavored it at times
    • I made sure there wasn't’t any in the house to would tempt me
  • I tried a new dinner recipe each night for a week
    • I searched Pinterest and cookbooks for new ideas
    • I asked friends and families ahead of time what their favorite recipes were
Some examples of DAILY goals that I have set:
  • I wanted to be on time for each activity scheduled that day
    • In the morning, I wrote out my “To-Do List” for the day with the specific times
    • I would have items prepared and packed ahead of time, ready to go out the front door with me
  • Spent 30 minutes each day in quiet meditation or time by myself
    • I made a specific point of PLANNING this into my daily schedule
    • I planned the time when the older boys or my husband were home and could attend to the kids
You might not realize it, but a “To-Do List” of items that need to be accomplished that day IS a set of goals. There have been days where I feel like I did not accomplish a single thing, but then I look back on my list of completed tasks and it gives me a different perspective and appreciation for the things I did accomplish.

Another way that I have found success in my personal goal setting is to follow Elder Robert D. Hales’ advice that he gave in a Conference Talk in October, 2001:
    “Accomplish personal goals in each of four categories … : spiritual development; physical development; educational, personal, and career development; and citizenship and social development” [Conference Report, Oct. 2001]

I have simplified these four categories as: Spiritual goals, Physical goals, Mental goals and Social goals. These are the same four categories that President Ezra Taft Benson gave when he counseled the church in a First Presidency Message published in the October 1986 Ensign entitled “Do Not Despair”. See if you can hear these four areas mentioned, as well as some reinforcement to the principles that we have already discussed.
    “Every accountable child of God needs to set goals, short- and long-range goals. A man who is pressing forward to accomplish worthy goals can soon put despondency under his feet, and once a goal is accomplished, others can be set up. Some will be continuing goals… This encompasses four main areas for goals: spiritual, mental, physical, and social. ‘Therefore, what manner of men ought ye to be?’ asked the Master, and he answered, ‘Verily I say unto you, even as I am.’ (3rd Nephi 27:27.) Now, there is a lifetime goal—to walk in his steps, to perfect ourselves in every virtue as he has done, to seek his face, and to work to make our calling and election sure” (“Do Not Despair,” Ensign, October 1986).

Some examples of PHYSICAL goals that I have set:
  • I participated in a triathlon within 9 months after having a baby
    • I signed up for it and committed friends to do it with me
    • I scheduled workouts several times a week to prepare
  • I certified as an aerobics instructor and specialized in spinning classes
    • I signed up for an aerobics instructor course
    • I attended as many aerobics classes as I could
Some examples of SPIRITUAL goals that I have set:
  • I read the Relief Society lesson ahead of time each week
    • I would read it the Sunday before and mark it up with a highlighter
    • I would then ponder the lesson throughout the week
  • I studied “Living Scripture” by marking it up with highlighters and a pencil
    • I studied my patriarchal blessing 
    • I also studied The Family: A Proclamation to the World and the Ensign magazines
Some examples of MENTAL goals that I have set:
  • I read a new book each week for an entire year
    • I used a website called to track the books I read and the ones I wanted to read
    • I would put audiobooks on my phone and listen to them as I drove around/attended my sons’ activities
  • I attend Time Out for Women and BYU Education Week each year
    • I love attending Time Out for Women each year in Salt Lake City
    • I also set aside time each year to attend BYU Education week for the whole week
Some examples of SOCIAL goals that I have set:
  • I take time each day to spend one on one with a different child
    • I find things that each child likes to do and do it with them
    • I make sure that this time is scheduled into the day’s busy activities so that we do it
  • I go on a date night once a week with my husband
    • Schedule it. Make sure that it happens. Doesn't always happen on a Friday night.
    • And it doesn't always have to be a financial expense. There are plenty of free things that can be done.
To conclude, I want to share a scripture from the Book of Mormon. In his address to the people of Mosiah, King Benjamin gave them some very wise counsel found in Mosiah 4:27:
    “And see that all these things are done in wisdom and order; for it is not requisite that a man should run faster than he has strength. And again, it is expedient that he should be diligent, that thereby he might win the prize; therefore, all things must be done in order”

I think that King Benjamin is giving us permission to slip up at times, and make mistakes in our goal setting. He tells us that we do not need to run faster than we have strength. So, if we mess up in our goal setting that day, this is a great opportunity for us to revisit our goals and make some changes. We shouldn't give up on a goal simply because we were not successful. Instead, we should change the goal to something that we can accomplish, and that still drives us in the direction of our ultimate goal. Besides, isn't this why we have the Atonement of Jesus Christ in our lives; to make up for our imperfections and give us the opportunity to begin each new day with a fresh start?

I ended by baring my testimony, and I will take the time to do it again. 
I know this church is true. I am thankful for the wise counsel of many apostles and prophets that have improved my life for the better. I know by setting short or long term goals they will help you be a better person. I am a better wife and mother because of it. I am thankful for a living prophet today that guides our church. I am thankful for each of my boys and my awesome husband. And I say these things in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen.

Saturday, December 28, 2013


We love to ski. I love that the entire family (well, almost the entire family) loves to go skiing. It's Brigham's first year and he picked it up just as fast as Gavin, by only the second time down the hill. Not second time going to the mountain, his second time down the hill. The next time we went skiing, Brigham and I raced down the slope... and he won. He's too fast though. He needs to learn control a little bit more. He loves it and has lots of fun though.

Will is phenomenal . He tries new tricks, watches YouTube videos and practices as often as he can. Will skis backwards and then can do a 180 and face forward, going the same speed. He now does jumps and turns while he jumps off 20+ foot ramps. He shows me the videos afterwards. Yowza!! He recently skied on a half pipe.

Tyler is the only snow boarder in the family. He loves it. He is getting much better than last year too. Here he is boarding down the hill and catching a small jump. He landed it perfectly.  He also can board right foot in front, move the board parallel and then left foot in front. Pretty cool. The picture above look closely, he has his tongue sticking out as he concentrates. So funny!

Here's Gavin. Look closely, he's skiing BACKWARDS! Hmm, I wonder where he got that idea from! He copies everything Will does, except for those super high jumps. They are too high. And he's too young!  Will and Gavin have ski passes for Park City Mountain Resort where they go often, especially during Christmas break. But, when the family goes we head up to Alta or Snowbird together.

The snow is so beautiful I am so thankful we moved to Utah... the Greatest Snow on Earth. It's so fun skiing, sledding and playing in the snow. All the kids feel the same way. We love it here!

Friday, December 27, 2013

Following Dad

Several days ago it snowed... and snowed... and snowed. We have a very long driveway, and so it takes a while to clear the snow. While Scott was out plowing the snow in the driveway, Preston chased after him and followed him the entire time. It was adorable!

He turned around at one point to make sure I was watching him the entire time. He would turn around, yell "MOM" and then either wave or blow kisses to me. 

Then, Preston would stand back while Scott turned the blower around and come back up the driveway. How precious!! 

Wednesday, December 18, 2013

Christmas Pictures

Here is our Christmas card this year. Above is the front and below is the back...or visa versa.

It was super fun taking these pictures. We went to a local apple orchard, which was so beautiful and fun for the boys to run around at; though, Preston kept eating apples. In fact, every single picture that I took of him had him holding or eating an apple! I was able to capture each of the boys separately, as well as several group poses and other small groupings.

Look at those faces! Adorable!

Here are all the new pictures of the boys. They changed so much from last year. Growing into men and growing up too fast!

Will is 14 years old and in the 9th grade. He plays football, lacrosse,  and is an avid skier.  He has straight A's in school and recently made it into the musical at Evergreen Jr.

Jackson is 12 years old and recently received the priesthood. He is in the 7th grade and loves being at the Junior High. He loves to draw, read, write stories and he is the best babysitter! He is always so compassionate and caring to his brothers, especially with Preston.

Tyler is 10 years old and in the 5th grade at Rosecrest Elementary. He lead his team into the football championships, loves snowboarding, lacrosse and basketball. He is a natural at any and all sports. Tyler is also pulling straight A's and trying to compete with Will.

Gavin is almost 8 years old and in the 2nd grade. Gavin skis with Will every chance that they get. He also loves basketball. Gavin has many young girls that gush over him, because he is such a flirt! Gavin is still playing the violin and excelling at it! It's so cute to watch him play.

Brigham is almost 6 years old and is in Kindergarten, though he wishes he was in the 3rd grade. Brigham loves playing basketball and is the lead scorer for his team. Brigham started the cello earlier this year and has been doing great at it! He just attempted skiing, and is already ready for some bigger runs. 

Nathan is 4 years old and in preschool. Nathan loves to play with his brothers and he is always trying to imitate them. He has a great smile and a loving personality.  He is very creative and is always trying to make things with Legos or Play-doh.

Preston is 17 months old, though I wish he was still a newborn! He's starting to talk, play, and his personality is definitely shining through. He loves his brothers, well most of them! He is also still such a snuggle bug, which I absolutely love.

Tuesday, December 17, 2013

Just try and steal cookies in front of me!!

I was helping the other night at Olympus High School with the Reflections committee as we were setting up for the awards ceremony. As I walked in I noticed 4 or 5 young men standing at the door looking in and laughing. They were saying something like, "they call that art?!" and other rude comments. I was going to say something to them, but I held my tongue and went inside.

As I was helping Emily and her husband, I turned and barely saw one of those boys grab a handful of cookies and run out. Emily's husband told her that those boys had taken some cookies, and she dismissed it quickly by saying "Oh well." I completely understand that Emily was super busy setting up for the program that would start in a few moments, but I could not allow these boys to get away with this.

I told Emily I would be right back and headed down the hall to where the boys had walked back towards the gym. I walked quickly past them and turned around and took their picture on my phone. Then, I walked into the gym where a wrestling match was occurring.

I headed straight for the bench and asked who the coach was. Two men said they were and I the proceeded to explain to them what had happened. The coach was furious! He walked right over to those boys and began questioning them. Surprisingly, the boys raised their hands and quickly said they were part of the group that had taken the cookies. Then, they apologized to me and their couch several times. I loved how embarrassed the coach was, how he was easily on my side, and how quickly he acted to help rectify the situation.

We walked into the hallway and the coach asked if there was anything the boys could do to try and make up for their mistake. Explaining that I wasn't the one in charge, we walked back to the room where the Reflections program was set up. Emily was surprised and pleased that the boys had returned. 

An hour later, after the ceremony, the boys walked in and said they were here to help clean-up and again expressed how sorry they were. It was neat to see these boys step up. I told them they may be a little embarrassed, but that this would be a good lesson for them.  They all seemed genuinely sorry, which is a big deal for teenage boys.

As they were helping, a mom who knew nothing of what had happened an hour ago, thanked the boys for coming in and offered them all cookies. We all busted out laughing! The boys said no thank you and Emily's husband joked with them saying, "I'm not going to fall for that one!"

Everyone makes mistakes, especially young boys. If you are ever in my position, PLEASE call out my boys and correct their behavior immediately. I can't parent them alone, I need your help! When I arrived home, I told my boys what I did. They weren't surprised that I had done that. But I also knew overall these boys were good kids, who had just made a silly mistake, but they had rectified it quickly.

Tuesday, November 19, 2013


We took family pictures a few weeks ago in an apple orchard. It was fun, but it sure is hard getting 7 little, energetic bodies to hold still, smile, and not move for several minutes. Here are just a few of the outtakes of our adventure.
Look at cute little Nathan in the middle with his mean guy scowl.  Watch out, he's about to punch you out!
And then the next one is a tad too smiley. He is such a ham!
Preston kept eating apples the entire time we were there. So 99% of the pictures he has an apple in his hand and a mouthful as well.


I asked Will to smile and he gave me this sleezy pose.

Nathan is totally done with posing, Preston is still chomping away and Brig's is getting into it. What's up?

 More apple tasting.

I have no idea what Jackson is doing, but he sure is a cutie!!
I will be posting the real pictures later!! Stay tuned!

Tuesday, November 12, 2013

Meeting the Prophet

A couple weeks ago, I met the prophet of our church, Thomas S. Monson. It was such an incredible experience, so tender and dear to me. I knew I was going to see him and a few other apostles at the Century of Honor Celebration to commemorate 100 years of scouting in the LDS Church, but I didn't know I would actually shake his hand and talk with him.

We arrived 2 hours early to snatch up some good seats. We were the first ones to be there in our section, section 2. We were on the 6th row, rows 1-5 were being reserved. I was thrilled! After a few short moments, the security guard and ushers said they were opening up rows 2-5 and we had first dibs. We quickly changed our seats to the second row. How exciting!

About 10 minutes before the show was to start, 9 of the 12 apostles started to walk in. We were sitting in Section 2, second row, the seats are in the front and close to the door that the apostles and prophet walk through. We were so close to them. The front row was reserved for ushers and security, so really there wasn't anyone in our way of seeing anyone walking in.

All of the security guards stood up and faced the audience, that was a sure sign that the prophet would be walking in soon. And there he was!  Just watching him walk in was so moving. It was touching to see his bodyguard helping him walk down the aisle. There were thousands and thousands of people in attendance, but you could hear a penny drop to the floor because of how quiet it was. It was that reverent.

He started walking in front of the audience and was waving to people. The prophet noticed Tyler standing next to me, looked him in the eye and said "Now there's a future missionary." He was in the middle of continuing to step forward when he changed his position and walked directly towards us. The prophet then said, "watch this!" He wiggled both of his ears and all the people around us laughed. The prophet held out his hand and shook Tyler's with authority and love. They spoke for just a few more short moments about scouting, and he was on his way. He continued to wave to people and sat down.

What an amazing experience that Tyler and I shared. He will (hopefully) remember it always. I can imagine Tyler on his mission talking with the youth telling them that he met the prophet Thomas S. Monson and the prophet told him he'd be a missionary. Such a tender and simple act of kindness the prophet showed to us that evening.  

At the end of the celebration, Thomas S. Monson received an award and was asked to come to the pulpit and say a few words. Again, his bodyguard gently helped him. The prophet looked frail. He looked old. He looked just like someone's cute grandpa. Then he spoke. Each word was strong and precise. He spoke with love and firmness. It was powerful to witness. He even cracked a couple of jokes. He has always been such a kidder. 

After the hour long scouting program (which, by the way, was absolutely amazing!) the Apostles started walking out and we were all able to shake their hands. It was amazing. It was reassuring. I was truly humbled by their compassion and love.

As Thomas S. Monson started walking towards his exit, he continued to wave and shake everyone's hand in the 2nd row. As he walked closer to us he said, "There's my missionary", pointing to Tyler.  I told him I have 7 boys. 7 future scouts. 7 future missionaries. He looked back at me with astonishment and said something on the lines of "Wow, no girls?" I placed my hand on his shoulder and asked him, "I don't know, you tell me. Are there any girls waiting to come down to my family?" Everyone around us laughed, and he threw his arms in the air and said, "I do not know that information!" Again, we were laughing.  The prophet continued to walk down our aisle shaking hands with Tyler, my mom, Bill and our cousin Trey.

That evening will always be remembered deep in my heart. I am truly thankful for the opportunity to live so close to events that the Prophet and his Apostles will attend. It was such a memorable and wonderful experience!!!

Monday, November 4, 2013

100 years of Scouting in the LDS Church

Will and Scott auditioned months ago to be part of an Eagle Scout Choir to celebrate the 100 year Anniversary of the LDS partnership with the Boy Scouting program.

They were both thrilled that they made it. They spent weeks preparing with over 365 other Eagle Scouts. I was able to attend the dress rehearsal on the Saturday before the broadcast, where we were able to video and take pictures. It was such a spectacular event! I thought there would just be a couple of talks and the choir might be singing a few Scouting songs... Boy was I wrong!

The show started with dim lights on the stage and a fog machine in full force.  Then several Scouts started playing trumpets from on top of these wooden towers on the stage.  They were then answered by a bunch of other Scouts who were playing back from the balcony behind the audience. It was strong and powerful.

Scouts then repelled in with the American and Scout Emblem flags. Everyone rose and together stated the Pledge of Allegiance. This was followed by hundreds of Cub Scouts who ran out onstage and sang the National Anthem.

The performance was about how the Scouting program came to America and how the LDS church became involved with it.
An American named W. D. Boyce was visiting England and got lost.  He was randomly helped by a young boy that refused to be paid for his "one good turn daily". He made such a huge impact on him, that he went straight to the Scouting headquarters in England to find out more information.

The show had kayakers in the air, more rappelling by other scouts, pinewood derby, and even a Boy Scout on a zipline.  It was very exciting!!!

I know that Scott and Will had a great time participating, but it was so informative and helpful for me to attend as well.  It had given me a greater resolve to make sure that my boys maximize the experience that they get out of the program.  It truly is a program that makes Boys into Men!!!

Sunday, November 3, 2013

Bear Lake

We all headed to Bear Lake a few weekends ago over UEA Weekend. I am so glad we were able to get away, even if it was for a just a few days. If was so beautiful up there. The fall colors were all around us.

We went on a few hikes together near Bear Lake. They were all easy enough that all the boys could walk them. It was much colder on the tops of those mountains though!

Can you see Will? Look very closely! He's right in the middle of this huge rock cliff!

Right in front of our timeshare all the trees are bright reds, oranges and yellows. My most favorite time of year!

We went to a couple of museums. We went to a park. We played tennis every day and we also fished. On the first day, everyone caught a fish. Brig's caught the largest one and was thrilled about it!

I also brought up my sewing machine with a couple of sewing projects, and my scrapbooking supplies. While the kids were swimming, watching a movie, playing outside or whatever, I was able to work on some crafts.

We also did lots and lots of swimming in their indoor heated pool, kids pool and Jacuzzi area.

I took this shot at the tennis court right after playing a game against the boys. Breathtakingly beautiful. 
And, of course, we had raspberry shakes every night for a yummy treat!!

It was a fun relaxing vacation with the fam.