Wednesday, August 18, 2010

The BIG talk....

Well, we finally had the BIG talk with Will. We were both hesitant to talk to any of kids about the nity gridy stuff, but we also knew it would be far better coming from us than kids at school. Some of my good friends had read a great book, "How to talk to your kids about sex". We read it and felt a lot more prepared about it. About a week before hand we kept telling Will we had something very important to talk to him about, but only him. We wanted him to feel that this was a very special thing for just him. While we were talking to him about the birds and the bees he was a little embarrassed at first but asked questions and did pretty well. Scott was all doctor-like and talking like he was in with a patient. Nothing fazes that guy. I was totally mortified. I couldn't look Will in the eye. I kept smiling/laughing. It all took about an hour or so. We talked about boys and girls bodies and their special parts. We talked about sex and how a baby is made. We did NOT talk about masturbation or anything like that. That talk will come soon with just Scott and Will. I refuse to be in there for that one! The funniest thing he said was, "I've always wondered how all those bones get into moms belly!" Meaning, when I'm pregnant with a baby in my belly! How funny, I've never thought of that. We also told Will that we needed to talk to Jackson about all of this soon and wanted to know if he wanted o join in on the conversation. At first he said no, but then later came up to us and said it would be a good idea. He thought Jackson would laugh and wouldn't understand, so Will wants to be there to help explain. Good for him! The hardest part was then talking to him about Santa, the Tooth Fairy and the Easter Bunny. (Yeah I know Will is almost 11 years old and still believe in all that!!) We talked about Santa first and he said he thought Scott and were Santa and it didn't bother him at all. He then said he for sure knew about the Easter Bunny because come on there is no such thing as a rabbit that big! (hahahah!!! Cute!) Then we talked about the Tooth Fairy. On this one he got a little teary-eyed. Not sure if it was a compilation of everything or this really mattered most to him. He said he thought it was Scott because he once found all the tiny teeth. Scott and I played it off that Scott was studying them for one of his classes. Obviously he didn't believe us. All in all it was a great conversation. I'm glad we had our little chat. Why is it so hard to talk about SEX with your kids? Or is it just me? Have YOU talked to them yet?

2 Comments:

Summer Spillane Jordan said...

hahahahhaha! so great! you guys just went all out and blew his whole youth at once eh? :) this is a great idea that Jace came up with and we're using...he takes Jace on a Superman campout. we even went out and found matching father and son superman shirts for them! he started when jacer turned 11 i think. just the two of them go camping and they get to discuss all of the "fun" nitty gritty stuff in the safety of nature and without the fear of their other siblings walking in...ie...THE GIRLS!!! :) he talks to them about what is expected of them and how the natural man is what the world tells us to be, but that the super man is the man that God wants us to be. he'll probably take him twice a year for a few years and then it will be time for james to join the camp. i think with all your little men that would be a great adventure! shame on you though lori...i can totally see you sitting in the room snickering :) you're so funny!

Becca said...

we had to have this talk w/ Jame way back when because he had discoverd some of it for himself. I had to check out books from the library, and found a great on that coverd enoughbut didnt go into full blown detail. I dont emember the title but when I find it again I am going to buy it, because i didnt want it wandering around my house with all of the other little kids looking at it. It was to goode of a book.
We also have had part of the talk w/hannah while explaining safty.